A sexual relationship is more than you think September 16, 2009

If you think you have very clear what is a sexual relationship, you should read this to the end, perhaps to confirm that you knew perfectly or you may discover that your concepts are wrong.

Some time ago some of the sex experts decided to do a small survey asking people of different sexes and ages at which they called sexual intercourse and few types of known sex. The concern that led them to these questions was the conviction that most people have a misconception of what they really mean by sex.

The answers they got absolutely of all respondents were that sex was the introduction of the penis into the vagina. Regarding how many types of known sex, the responses were varied, some named intercourse different positions inside and other people mentioned homosexual, heterosexual or bisexual.

Probably everyone knows that sex is scientifically divided into four phases, the first of it is excitement, during which there is a mental and emotional state accompanied by physical changes at the level of the genitals as an erection in men, dilation and lubrication of the vagina in women. In the second stage called plateau of sexual tension reaches its peak and then continues to intercourse, the third in which there is penetration or orgasm, and finally the fourth stage is when the body returns to normal after orgasm.

This explanation is valid to consider that the introduction of the penis into the vagina is only one phase of the sexual act and is not even necessary to reach orgasm, may well be overlooked and still be a sexual relationship. When two fully clothed people fail to get excited by kissing and caressing and then continues to rub the genitals of one against the other and thus come to orgasm and ejaculation, are met all 4 phases of the sexual act, there was excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution, therefore we can say that it conducted a sexual relationship.

The rubbing of genitals is a common practice among teenagers, come to realize dressed only in underwear or completely naked, but any of these couples can say that having sex and not really think so.

Following common examples and known by all, we have the case of mutual masturbation, which through clothing and is accomplished using the hands excitement and orgasms, but then those people do not acknowledge having had a sexual relationship .
Oral sex what to say then when a famous president refused to the whole world having sex with a young lady who practices petting him in his office then had to recant and call an inappropriate relationship, not to call it by its real name.

A young man wrote some time ago concerned about the possibility of having contracted a sexually transmitted disease, saying that never in his life had sex; all I did was rub his penis with the other guy. A clear example is when we think in the encounters between lesbians in them there is obviously no penetration but no one will deny that they are sex.
Another girl claimed that her boyfriend did not have sex, just got excited and came home when they masturbated while keeping sexy talk.

Here are some examples of what is considered completely innocent relationship in which there is no sexual contact. The concept of sex includes situations in which they perform all or some phases of the sexual act, because it is not even necessary to produce an orgasm, because then we would think that an insight into which no ejaculation there was no sexual relationship. Whenever in the relationship sex with another person is involved in one way or another is certainly a sexual relationship.

Myths about homosexuality August 27, 2009

Fortunately there is increasing tolerance and respect for sexual orientation of individuals. The fact that many well-known personalities have openly declared their homosexuality in the media has contributed greatly to this. However, there are still many misconceptions that revolve around gays and lesbians, attacking their dignity and their rights.

With this post I hope to clear some of them:

1. “Homosexuals have more psychological disorders than heterosexuals”

This has no basis. This is something that still exists today in the minds of those who think homosexuality is a mental illness or disorder. Sexual orientation does not reflect from any problems may it be organic or psychological. There are still people who believe that when something is a minority it is abnormal or pathological.

2. “The homosexuals differ from heterosexuals in physical characteristics: voice, body size, body expression, etc.”

Scientific studies have been conducted in this area have shown that sexual orientation is not something that can be inferred from the personality, appearance or gestures, since there is no universal prototype of homosexual or heterosexual. The verbal and body language that is labeled as effeminate or effete can be found in both heterosexual and homosexual.

3. “There are effective treatments for homosexuality”

This is a therapeutic target which is unhealthy, sad and wrong that for years was regarded by science (medicine and psychoanalysis). This attempt is a repressor which really hurt people who renounced their sexual orientation, and so tried to use science to fit into the pattern set by society. Even now this type of treatment is circulating on the Web that should be denounced as unethical and fraudulent.

4. “The sexuality of lesbians is unsatisfactory because of lack of penis”

This myth hides not only ratings but sexist homophobic. First of sexuality is more than the genital, so it can be perfectly enjoyable sex without having to have intercourse. The phallocentric sexuality both gay and straight women is obsolete limiting the pleasure of either.
Moreover, some studies have corroborated the experience of having orgasms is more common in lesbian women than heterosexual women after sexual climax is not correlated with having sexual practices involving the penis. Moreover, the percentage of women instruments employing gay sex penis substitute is a minority (2%).

5. “In gay couples one member has a male and a female role”

This is false. People when see a gay couple still make comments like “that makes man and that woman.” The person who is homosexual does not conflict with his sexual identity, feel fully at ease with their gender, thereby no need to “make one sex or another.” gender roles also are becoming more flexible, and there are behaviors that pertain to both women and men, regardless of sexual orientation.

Still, the difference or separation of roles is more evident in heterosexual couples. Homosexual relationships are generally much more egalitarian, as those that might occur between two friends, but also feel love and erotic attraction.

6. “Pedophilia is linked to homosexuality”

This is like saying that lying is related to gender. This myth is a statement that not even matches statistics. Consider that 80% of child sexual abuses were perpetrated by heterosexuals (usually a man, the victim being a girl). Another important fact to consider is that the first homosexual experience is often given with a friend or acquaintance of about the same age and not with an adult pedophile.

7. “There are fathers or mothers whose behavior leads to homosexuality of their children”

This is a false belief that originated in theories describing psiconalíticas a typical pattern of family relationships that resulted in male homosexuality: overprotective mother and a passive and distant father. These arguments full of guilt have no empirical validity, it does not correspond to reality, which shows that there is no correlation between sexual orientation of parents and children.

8. “The disappearance of taboos about homosexuality will lead to more homosexuals”

The freedom to express sexual orientation has caused many people to make public his homosexuality, because they no longer feel guilty or worry that there are people who censure them. But the number of hetero or homo has remained a constant throughout history, which has varied in different periods and cultures is the number of individuals who have felt respected and free to express their sexual orientation, which is being able to openly do more especially in recent decades.

9. “Homosexuals never marry or live alone”

This distortion falls backward under its own weight to watch today marriage is an option for both gay and straight, and not an obligation. There are many people who choose to live alone or have no steady partner temporarily, regardless of sexual orientation manifest.

10. “The anal sex is more frequent sexual behavior among gay men”

While that is a sexual practice that is in their repertoire, it is equally true that it is also practiced by a percentage of heterosexual couples. In addition, more frequent sexual behavior in gay couples are actually bucogenitales relations and genital stimulation.