A sexual relationship is more than you think September 16, 2009

If you think you have very clear what is a sexual relationship, you should read this to the end, perhaps to confirm that you knew perfectly or you may discover that your concepts are wrong.

Some time ago some of the sex experts decided to do a small survey asking people of different sexes and ages at which they called sexual intercourse and few types of known sex. The concern that led them to these questions was the conviction that most people have a misconception of what they really mean by sex.

The answers they got absolutely of all respondents were that sex was the introduction of the penis into the vagina. Regarding how many types of known sex, the responses were varied, some named intercourse different positions inside and other people mentioned homosexual, heterosexual or bisexual.

Probably everyone knows that sex is scientifically divided into four phases, the first of it is excitement, during which there is a mental and emotional state accompanied by physical changes at the level of the genitals as an erection in men, dilation and lubrication of the vagina in women. In the second stage called plateau of sexual tension reaches its peak and then continues to intercourse, the third in which there is penetration or orgasm, and finally the fourth stage is when the body returns to normal after orgasm.

This explanation is valid to consider that the introduction of the penis into the vagina is only one phase of the sexual act and is not even necessary to reach orgasm, may well be overlooked and still be a sexual relationship. When two fully clothed people fail to get excited by kissing and caressing and then continues to rub the genitals of one against the other and thus come to orgasm and ejaculation, are met all 4 phases of the sexual act, there was excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution, therefore we can say that it conducted a sexual relationship.

The rubbing of genitals is a common practice among teenagers, come to realize dressed only in underwear or completely naked, but any of these couples can say that having sex and not really think so.

Following common examples and known by all, we have the case of mutual masturbation, which through clothing and is accomplished using the hands excitement and orgasms, but then those people do not acknowledge having had a sexual relationship .
Oral sex what to say then when a famous president refused to the whole world having sex with a young lady who practices petting him in his office then had to recant and call an inappropriate relationship, not to call it by its real name.

A young man wrote some time ago concerned about the possibility of having contracted a sexually transmitted disease, saying that never in his life had sex; all I did was rub his penis with the other guy. A clear example is when we think in the encounters between lesbians in them there is obviously no penetration but no one will deny that they are sex.
Another girl claimed that her boyfriend did not have sex, just got excited and came home when they masturbated while keeping sexy talk.

Here are some examples of what is considered completely innocent relationship in which there is no sexual contact. The concept of sex includes situations in which they perform all or some phases of the sexual act, because it is not even necessary to produce an orgasm, because then we would think that an insight into which no ejaculation there was no sexual relationship. Whenever in the relationship sex with another person is involved in one way or another is certainly a sexual relationship.

Sex toys: functionality and eroticism go together September 8, 2009

To improve health
According to a recent study, sex toys bring concrete benefits to physical and emotional health. According to specialists in sex toys, they have already crossed the border of pleasure, to focus on health benefit of customers. More products are being marketed now fulfill a dual function: to increase the enjoyment and advantages as amatory and correct some health problems for both men and women. “There are elements that facilitate the strengthening of the pelvic area. Help control stress and strain of the muscles involved in sexual intercourse. Ejaculatory control is vital in the sexual relationship and there are toys that allow you to run different tables of ejaculatory control, “says a famous Spanish owner of a sex store.
Serves healthy
Chinese Smart balls are specially designed to strengthen the vaginal muscles. “Strengthening the pelvic floor is a necessity for many women, especially those who have had children.”A well-toned pelvic helps achieve more intense orgasms and followed, helps to better control the bowel and increased recovery in childbirth,” says the sex experts.

According to an American study on sexual health, nearly half of women aged between 18 and 55 who used a vibrator in the investigation said to have a higher libido than those not using it. Those experienced with the product had a much greater sexual interest, orgasm more easily and tended to a higher quality of sexual life. Those with mild dysfunction were able to repair with the use of this toy.

Sex toys are used as therapy by sex experts. There are situations that may be prescribed to see how they work in pairs. In many cases they are able to solve the problems of anorgasmia, sexual apathy and premature ejaculation.

In the case of vibrators, they can be recommended for women with pain disorders such as vaginismus or dyspareunia. Patients can begin with this treatment by slowly starting with clitoral stimulation and go smoothly introducing the product to not feel pain. Its use is also advisable for women who have difficulty reaching orgasm. It is recommended by sexologists that these women should test the areas most encouraging, various positions, speeds and rhythms to improve the sexual health.

The end of sex toys to treat a sexual health problem is different, but can also be combined for pleasurable use. Not all those who consult a health problem are willing to listen to such treatment as advised sexual product. In the case of women, especially those above forty, have prejudices and obstacles and embarrassed when a consultation is recommended to try a treatment of this style, but they must understand that it is a measure to improve naturally, without resorting to drugs or inappropriate psychological therapy for minor sexual problems that can worsen over time without need.
Tips:
Consult a sexology specialist if you are experiencing any sexual problem and raise the possibility of a product that can naturally reduce or eliminate symptoms.

If yes, turn to a specialty shop. You must be very careful with homemade sex toys because they may cause allergies and infections.

The oils are also a good option to relax muscles and tension. Massage external erogenous zones is a good alternative to benefit the relationship and alleviate physical symptoms.

Tantra and sexual rite August 28, 2009

Each part of sex is considered a rite of Tantra. A celebration of sensibility that succeeds in carrying the man and woman to the original point, the essence of being human. Sublimated eroticism and intends to make it perpetual. Not only sounds good, but it feels awesome.

Forget about getting physical pleasure and find the road to sexual satisfaction without limit. Tantra talks about scrubbing thoroughly arouse and release your inner energy. This is to see, touch, and awaken the senses and the desire to enjoy the most. Orgasm is not the goal, but is achieved by lot. The excitement is not a goal, but reaches unknown dimensions. Do not seek pleasure, but you will surely feel a gush.

Rather than achieving orgasm, what Tantra speaks of is the exaltation of sexual desire. Extend to the entire body and its relationship to the universe. Holder of many different techniques to arouse sensitivities of the body, open energy channels, directly connected with sexual pleasure. Orgasm is not about a second, not the climax or the second loss of consciousness. On the contrary, full intercourse is the time to full consciousness. The sexual coupling is where the unknown forces are reported, the internal and the universe. The art to enhance, expand it. During orgasm is an exchange of life energy.

To achieve, in part, some of its consequences, better understand some of its tenets. It is not a manual of sexual techniques; this is a look at sex as a rite of communion with the essence of man. The search called Nirvana, Samadhi or just the encounter with God.
Tantra is an explanation of life and the world, his philosophy goes far beyond sexual practice, seeks to awaken the energy channels and chakras of people through a basic relationship, sexual, linked to the life, creation, to fertility. Having sex is the union of opposites that creates a “burden polar” where it connects to the “totality” which caused “all” or also called “primordial energy” or “cosmic unity”.

It sounds wonderful, but as we say in colloquial parlance, it is not coming and hugging, requires work, dedication and practice to achieve communion spoken of Tantra. The good news is that efforts in practice are a task they could spend it willingly big part of life.

Myths about Sexuality August 25, 2009

Our mind rides along with an ample amount of sexual myths, but now the time has come to get rid of our imaginary daily misconceptions about human sexuality. This subject may seem a little awkward but now we are in such an era that it has become a prime necessity of today.

The sexuality concepts that usually bring negative consequences to our everyday life are referred to as below:

The more partners we have, we will be better lovers

We must remember that good sex does not depend on quantity but quality.

The other has to know what we like

If you do not know your own body and its reactions to different stimuli, it will be difficult for the other to guess. Communication is an invaluable part of our sexuality.

Sexuality is between the legs

We can not confuse sexuality with genitalia. The brain is the engine of our sex life, if it is not eroticized nothing will work.

Sexuality begins in adolescence

Not by chance. Sexuality and the ability to enjoy it are with us from birth until our death. What is needed is simple amending and changes throughout our life cycle.

Sex and intercourse are synonymous

Sex is much more than a sexual practice. We can not forget that a significant number of women are unable to orgasm with just intercourse practicing. Recall that the female sex organ is the clitoris and not the vagina.

Masturbation is a sexual practice for teenagers or for people without a partner

Masturbation can always be practiced at any age, with or without a partner. It involves exercising one’s freedom to choose at what time we would enjoy our own body.

The sexual practice begins and ends in bed

The eroticism and sensuality starts long before you get into bed (or elsewhere). Imagination, fantasy and gaming are backbones of our pleasure.

14 Most Common Questions about Sex August 24, 2009

Today there are still some myths about sexuality which should be necessarily eradicated.

There are lots of questions about sex related to pregnancy and sexuality but here we have collected the most frequent and here are the answers:

1. At least not carried out sex with vaginal penetration, there is always risk of pregnancy if not used methods of contraception.

2. Without adequate protection, although vaginal penetration is not deep, there is always risk of pregnancy.

3. Many sexual activities carry no risk of pregnancy, so no special precautions are needed: the touching, kissing, mutual masturbation with or without clothes, or having oral sex. However for oral sex to keep in mind that there is risk of sexually transmitted diseases.

4. Through penetration, vaginal and anal sex can spread disease.

5. Masturbation does not harm health or diminish sexual potency.

6. The irregular menses may be due to many factors, physical and psychological, but not masturbation.

7. During menstruation sex may be taken but we suggest the use of contraceptive methods, such as the condom, which prevents the spread of sexually transmitted diseases. Also unusually bleeding may occur that do not correspond with menstruation and have unprotected risk of pregnancy.

8. The exact day of ovulation may vary from one cycle to another is therefore not advisable to follow methods such as calendar, also called the rhythm method or rhythm. It’s more reliable to have sex with contraceptive protection if you want to prevent unwanted pregnancies.

9. Anal penetrations have no risk of pregnancy, but disease transmission.

10. To practice anal intercourse is necessary to lubricate the whole of the area and avoid that which becomes inflamed anus.

11. Having sex is possible to feel a swelling in the vagina, which may be due to the insights that there is insufficient lubrication, lack of arousal or that the relationship linger enough. When there is pain, it is recommended to visit a gynecologist.

12. The method of “reverse”, by which a person withdraws the penis from the vagina before ejaculation, does not prevent pregnancy. Before the man ejaculates the erect penis gives out some amount of sperm, so the risk of pregnancy still exists.

13. If your period is late then after having had unprotected penetrations do a pregnancy test, but know that the pregnancy hormone is detected in urine Fifteen days after conception, or what is the same: the sexual act with possibility of pregnancy. If the test is performed before having a delay of at least one day may give a false negative. It is recommended to test with first morning urine since it will be a greater concentration of hormone. If your doubts persist and you feel that you might be pregnant visit a doctor.

14. The morning after pill can not prevent all pregnancies and is most effective if used within 24 hours, but can use up to 3 days after having unprotected sex, though their effectiveness will be reduced. If you have sex and there is risk of pregnancy may be taken the morning after pill, but be aware that their decision not to overindulge and do not prevent sexually transmitted diseases.

Homemade Sex Toys – Should You Really Make Your Own? July 20, 2009

Homemade sex toys – surely are very popular, no one can deny of the fact that they have heard about them. The housewife who selects a perfectly shaped cucumber at the grocery store but won’t be cooking with it, or the teenager who uses her spinning toothbrush on more than just her teeth…. With the availability of sex toys these days, not to mention just how very discreet they can be, why are people still using homemade sex toys? Are homemade sex toys safe?

Why People Still Use Homemade Sex Toys

Both men and women still use homemade sex toys for several reasons – many people still believe that actual sex toys are hard to find or expensive, and they’re afraid of others (such as their children) finding their sex toys. Fortunately, these things just aren’t true anymore about sex toys. Many sex toys are inexpensive and a great number of them are incredibly discreet (tube of lipstick in your purse, anyone?) and no one but you will really know the difference. Sex toys are easy to buy online, will show up at your house in discreet packaging and even the transaction on your bank account will be discreet enough that someone simply looking at your bank statement won’t know what that particular transaction was about. Why not get a real sex toy?

Sex Toy Safety

While the benefits of homemade sex toys are that they’re inexpensive, readily available and discreet, they’re not worth risking your health with. Homemade sex toys aren’t safe – some of them can injure your most sensitive areas and even carry bacteria that can cause you serious infections that are expensive to treat under a doctor’s care. It’s not worth taking the risk! Read on about some of the great – and inexpensive – sex toys that you can use that will make your masturbation sessions better and safer.

Boy Toys

While a number of men masturbate with their hands, some men are into finding “toys” that they can masturbate with to try to recreate the feeling of a mouth or a vagina. Men have been known to use fruit, fabric, pillows and even harsh toilet paper rolls! Come on guys! Most sex toy stores and websites have silicone masturbators that you can use instead, that are soft and squishy and have a number of pleasure enhancing factors. A plain silicone masturbator is truly inexpensive, but for a real treat, you can try one with firm pleasure beads inside or one that is ridged or studded. Some are even shaped like anuses, mouths and vaginas to make masturbating even more fun! Male Vibrators are safe too – just remember to use plenty of water based lubricant!

Girl Toys

While some men do use homemade sex toys, women are the ones who really get a bad rap about it. Women have been known to use everything from vegetables to hairbrushes to bottles and everything in between. There are a variety of female vibrators available though, most of them so discreet you wouldn’t be able to tell them apart from a curling iron or even a fancy pen. Plus, homemade sex toys don’t vibrate! Real sex toys are easy to clean, and you don’t have to worry about bacteria that could cause an infection. They’re not expensive either! Real sex toys will give you everything you want in a toy, but without the worries that come along with homemade sex toys. If you are going to use a homemade sex toy though, throw a condom on it first to protect yourself.

Ready to graduate from homemade sex toys to the real thing?

Will Daily Masturbation Affect Puberty? July 11, 2009

Many teenagers have this very question – is masturbation wrong? Does it affect puberty? Will masturbating daily – or masturbating at all – cause health problems? What is the truth when it comes to masturbation?

Old Wives Tales

You might have heard that masturbation can make you go blind. Or it might give you hairy palms, or even make you need glasses. There’s not one bit of truth to any of these claims – in fact, there are no medical problems that are caused by masturbation, even daily masturbation. In fact, masturbation is healthy for both men and women of all ages, especially those going through puberty. The extra hormones produced by your body during puberty cause you to want to satisfy your new sexual needs and urges, and it’s completely natural to do so. Masturbation is a healthy and not to mention safe way to satisfy those desires without worrying about pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. Unfortunately, sex ed in this country is at a low – many adults are afraid to talk to their children about sex and masturbation, so children and teenagers growing up thinking masturbation is wrong and they’re “dirty” for doing it. Grow up people! Masturbation is healthy, safe and a natural way to satisfy those new desires that come with puberty.

How Much Is Too Much?

That said, it is possible that a person – teenager, adult, man or woman – can masturbate too much. Medically speaking, not so much. But what about when it starts interfering with your daily life? What happens if you’re making time in your day for masturbation (instead of just letting it happen naturally and satisfying the desire when it comes along and is convenient) or you’re masturbating 3 or 4 times a day? That’s when it starts crossing the line – and it’s not just masturbation. It can be anything, including television, books, video games or chat rooms. If you find that your daily life is being interrupted by these things – masturbation included – it might be a borderline obsession or addiction that you need to keep in check. Don’t be afraid to talk to a doctor or counselor if you find that you’re masturbating too much – with therapy, they can help you to find other outlets for your stress and extra sexual desires so you don’t feel the need to masturbate so much that it interferes with your daily life.

All in all, masturbation has no bearing on personal growth, puberty or your body at all medically and can, in fact, be healthy for you. We live in the era of the Internet, so don’t be afraid to Google masturbation and find out some good facts for yourself. Look them up on credible websites and keep an eye out for anything that sounds fishy – such as masturbation causing you to have leprosy. Even though the sex ed in this country is lacking, that doesn’t mean you can’t take the initiative to educate yourself! Be safe, smart and informed!